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[Applause] Thank you for the great service. And to the members here. This is the dream that I have stayed for this year.

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I think that we should consider the future of life. We know our father in this church. Now, about three years ago, in Texas, at our state parliament, we did consider the other woman. We talked about it.

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So I didn't come prepared to give you an adventure on that, because as far as we're concerned, we have already got that straight down. But I will mention one or two things. In every church, however small, however large, whether it's in the Northwest, the East, the South, the Deep South, or wherever, you are going to have these women museums. I'm talking to the ministers while I can have them stand back.

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[Audience laughter] Many of them are not aware of their own frustrations. They hang on to the men. He represents to them this male image that they do not have in a husband.

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And so, it's like a doctor. Most professional men have these kind of women. But we know it because we see so many of them in the church, especially in the Baptist church. [Audience laughter]

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Now as a minister's wife, you must have faith in your husband. [Audience laughter] And the system is made by the people. [Audience]

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So ever, in anything you do, so that you are humiliated, jealous, insecure, because you're asking for a box of cards. [Audience laughter]

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You know the story of Pandora? That's it. So, if you have that kind of trust, If you love each other, if you understand, that's just a matter of time.

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That's my golden mission. Stay there and you know it. That's physical, it's physical. And if anybody else wants to discuss this further, I'll be glad. My new wing was on top of your body, but I think I have given you the taste of what you are supposed to expect in other women.

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Now we did this. We took a whole class together about three years ago in our state parliament. And we talked about the other woman as far as the all-news, the wild, and the state press. And in Europe, you still have this kind of thing called New York Congress, New York Constitution, New York State, here we go. To be proud of how much they believe in it, how much the women want it.

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They want it. And maybe you say my wife doesn't need it. But do you get it? [laughter]

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Our minister was amazed at my voice. When I met this man, I would not have dreamed that I would end up becoming a minister's wife. But I have 39 years of it. I'm getting interviews for his movies.

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And I wouldn't say he's not pretty, either. But you never become the perfect Mr. Slytherin. You work well. You paint.

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You know, you need... But... It's a constant thing with you and the Lord. [Yes.]

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He has to guide you... Closer and closer to becoming what you should be. But you just don't decide, "I'm going to marry a Christian." [Amen.]

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[Laughter.] "Excuse my grandmother, I'm so angry." [laughter] [inaudible]

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Your job takes courage, a love for people, and a deep dedication to God and to your husband.

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Your husband, have you heard me? Yes, yes, we just sent a man out. We sent out a couple of guys. Your husband's professional calls

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for one of the most inclusive combinations of accordance, skills, and obligations that have ever been put together for one human being. [laughter] Ah, you not only married with a husband, but you had to marry with a job.

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[laughter] So as a minister's wife, you cannot escape a very special kind of relationship. You bow to people on a local, national, and international level. You cannot do your work effectively unless you understand the history.

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The ministry is definitely a public property. I mean, the ministry is definitely public property. [Audience "Amens"] This is one of the first things a ministry by tax can do.

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The church is first, people second, and whatever you say. [laughter] Now, if you don't get that way down deep inside of you, you'll never be happy. That's just life.

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That's just life. That's just life. And many times, you will be father and mother to each other. Because the Father is somewhere else.

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Your attitude towards this will determine how you feel about the Church and the Father. You can call him the lover of the Church because you have an openness, you feel glad, You've got to share this with your husband, or you can complain to him. Oh, you know, and they will in turn grow up disliking the church.

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[Audience "Amens"] We have to have our own law, because most of us have our own feelings, and I want to know that too. You must never object to the way the people feel your husband's tantrums. Senior, you must have the wisdom of a servant and the harmlessness of a daughter.

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Ladies, I'm not concerned about the men, but I want to be sure this is your day. You have to have the wisdom of a servant and the honestness of a girl. I like that. Your life will be like living in a goldfish boat.

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So look up for lots of games and exaggerate the fastest ever. Every detail of your family is going to be known and what isn't known is going to be a mess. This is not a war, it's a public game. All of our believers are very, very careful

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when we move to wake up. If we're living in Dallas, we have only one idea, one place to live, completely closed. And so we can try to talk about it

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when we decide to buy. More funnily, if we're going to wake up, I have been waiting for that idea for years and years. But because we got away from it,

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we had this community of ladies to come in to help us to move. Now, imagine, no one touched us in here. Better to stay out of it.

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More or less, we put what we had You know what kind of subject you're in in your career? So on and so forth. You know, you hear that.

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Taylor, about 18 years ago, he went to Austin. Now in Austin, he had only one tailor who came each day.

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And she would come in the morning, then afternoon, in the evening. And she would go back and forth and other, other times.

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"Baby, you can't get around this." - You're a woman. - Exactly. But, and then she would tell me, you know,

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"I gotta go home now. "Miss Washington is waiting for me to call her." (audience laughing) [laughter]

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Remember, no matter what you do, there is no right or wrong. You will be saved by soon, and crucified by early. [laughter] If we can make the triumph and disaster, as Kip and Sid, and treat these two impostors just the same, we shall achieve a notoriety of mine that nothing can shift.

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Today, new ministers have earned their families to buy their own homes. However, the skill is disproven. [audience laughter] [audience laughter] Now never get upset

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about someone coming to you without calling. [audience laughter] If you're cleaning, if you're brushing,

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whatever you're doing, in the house if you're making, don't get upset. [audience laughter]

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Really, you've got to go far there with it. There are many measures in our churches that will help the youth and they feel comfortable in youth when they don't feel comfortable in their country. So, Jesus sleeps in the shul. Jesus sleeps all over Israel. That's better. He's down in the middle of the mix. Most of the time they came to talk and listen, listen to it.

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Sometimes you can talk to them, sometimes you don't answer them, sometimes you don't. But you do know what? You can get up, you can sit down there and close your eyes and want to see them and pray for them. And whether you saw it or not, they go away stronger than they did when they came.

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And about all things keep your mouth shut. When is goodbye? Must have this in English At a snowy mountain

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If one member in your congregation There has to be a thousand or a billion or four or whatever If one person finds I could confine you to

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You have even mentioned this somewhere in a casual manner, you would allow for respectiveness as a husband to your husband, and not only you, but him, that's it. So it's vital necessary that we as members of our business be having open ear and listening ear and a closed mouth. [UNCLEAR] and nothing, however quiet she might seem, could be in the music. It had been that she knows she's not taken by the air-quicks, she's taken by the air-quicks, and the wind is soft, and yet she comes apart from you.

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to their own work. Many of you know that God has a part of you, do you? It is important, and it is part of our job. So remember that. All right. As a woman and a wife, you are standing alongside a man, dedicated to God's work and word. You stand with him, you stand for him, and you share his life, his work, his sorrow, his joy. You share his struggle, and you share his triumph. No man is dependent on further than his own capacity unless the one who lives most intimately with him

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is working and shares his work. It is not a commitment. The wife can help or send her to her husband. Think of Alex's wife.

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Now, he told his wife that he felt the need to go to Africa. And she said, "I have to go take a course in medicine I'm going to get the nurses so I can talk to the women. Many ministers get the power to a church that still has God's name on the screen to go. And then they go home and discuss it with their wives and say, "No, I don't want to go." [laughter] That isn't our business.

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Young people, and my people. That is what I'm saying. And so when you, whether or not he was a Muslim and you married him, or whether he got the call after you were married, he was still to go to that next meeting without any...

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You don't know what he said that Saturday. [Laughter] So, Mr. Wise should not take on more than he can do weight. We, the members of the WISE, have the idea that I must do a little of everything in the church to help my husband,

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help him to be prepared. God didn't want us to be so pastusive. [Audience laughter] No, you're right. No, you're right. We are only to do as much or as little as we can do very well.

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You can mess up a church by spreading yourself too big. [Audience laughter] How much responsibility should you take for being active in the community? The same thing is done.

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The older and the older, the need to be safe. You should at least go out into the community and listen to other people besides the ones in your church. But that doesn't mean that every social club in town, you must be the president of all other bodies or something. It's on you that you should do well whatever you take on.

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Now of course that also depends on the ages of your children and how much responsibility you have in common. I think that since you were young, of course, your first obligation was that. Just like in my case, mine are all gone. They won't be back. [laughter] I can afford to spread out a little more than I could have in some of these places.

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Or more. And speaking of can do, he came here, the pastor's kid. I think he can help us with that issue. Remember, you may fall in love with a man who's probably already a minister, considering

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becoming a minister, or surely not after the divine call for which you both struggle. But children are infants of the past in any way. They didn't present a creature for a father. Creatures happen to be born in a pastor's home.

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Your children have your children. And they are special, that they can love the life they have or they can hate it. You are the determiner. You and your husband.

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As I speak of the sick children, I feel a deep sense of gratitude and thankfulness to God. Because I had one daughter who had good pictures. And when this girl came home and told me that she was going to marry this picture, I thought, "Oh, my God!" I wondered if she knows what she's getting into.

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And I had a good friend here in Waco who was also a Winsford wife. And we talked about it and she said, "I think you should feel real good about it. She knows what this is all about. And for her to select him and marry him, I think that's great." I didn't tell her. But she married him at 11, 15 years.

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And he was chaplain of the Morehouse College. So I am grateful to God because he could have saved the life of a preacher. And we sometimes can't do this. Don't do this and you can't do that and you can't do this and you can't do that.

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Remember, those are normal children. And if it's homesick, if it's clingy, if it isn't going to hurt a bit, why not? Why not? Your children need to be brought up as much as possible, as lovable children, and you are going to have to feed the buffalo.

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Sometimes your husband won't understand, but then you all get into anger and talk about it. And one more thing about the children, and I'm going to move on. Know their friends. Sometimes the aunties try to get away from us because they have friends that we don't know about.

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I invite them in. I will talk to them and talk to them and I like to have them. I say, "Cookies? Come on in, we'll have some cookies and some popcorn. Come on in." You know, and we sit down and we talk. You know, get to know them. Get to know them. If you're going to be dating somebody, bring him in.

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[Audience laughter] I know that's right. You know, if there's a tuning at the door, you know, uh-uh, you come in.

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And you prepare to sit down, 'cause mommy's gonna have you sit. [Audience laughter] And in the course of your sitting, she's gonna smile to you. [Audience laughter]

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God bless you. God bless you, sister. And if it isn't what I think it ought to be, we're going to stop living for the kids to leave. Many, many minutes to the ride, but watch out, children. Now that's not only true of girls, I know about girls, but that's also true of boys.

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Who is this King Kong in the song house? Who is this? It's where this baby needs it. We need to work on that.

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Because I find that in my counseling with the minister, see, I couldn't get my age to get this old. And some of the youngsters, young ministers who I've talked with me a lot,

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and I find that this is what needs. Needs your children's friends. This is good for the people who are feeling the pain. Oh yes, take one step at a time.

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Now there is a story about a little boy whose name was Jimmy. Jimmy was about six years old. And one day Jimmy came in and he said to his mama, "Mama, what is that?" Oh my gosh, what can you say?

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The child is only six years old. And he's been going to sit down, Jimmy. And she went through all this deal about the girls and the kids. And how careful he knows how to touch.

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And so when she had finished, Jimmy was looking at her very puzzled. And he said, well now, Mama, how can I put all of this right here on my, I'm just so glad that my dear husband's dead, too. [laughter]

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He'll do as much as a human being, and no more. Sometimes we worry about things that are really to be worried about. I have to cut this down a bit because I didn't know I'd be so long. I cut it down a lot.

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[laughter] I have three rules that the children should be involved in individual affairs, in family affairs, in Bible study. That's where they're here, from here. Around the corner, in the kids' room.

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Who is in Bible study? That's what I'm saying. My people probably don't have time now. But you don't have time to do that.

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And what I would say is, plan your vacations together. Keep your friends in together with you sometimes. You all sit in now.

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[laughter] You need to be amazed with your family. Plan in with your soldiers. Let them have a hand in playing with you.

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This will make them feel fond of you, of the heart, of the pain. And if it's only three days, and if it's only in the country, keep going. So the bottle won't ring, and the dog won't ring, and you'll be just you and your family. Now you owe that money.

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And if you don't have children, then spend it with your wife and kids always. And many, many people say, "Oh, look, you ain't gonna get no kids from that's my baby daddy." That is a lie. And they don't buy it. Don't you buy that. No way.

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Keep it strong, stay with what you got. The White House House is a good idea. Keep it strong. Let 'em like you got.

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That's all you want, just stay with it. You right. Yeah, you right. You need it.

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Sure. And now I'm here, it's 15 miles out of town. Now I have one thing that they sometimes go into the check in the hotel that I didn't offer. But they don't know where they are.

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And that's the vacation they're in. But whatever it is, get going, you need it. Now I will say what I think is the last of this. And that is, ladies, what the hell is the meaning of this?

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[Audience chatter] If you really want your husband to think, you have got to start cutting down on food, the kind of food that you like. And just because Luther Miley met a great power of faith,

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and he was over there, and they liked him. She's right. She's right. She's guilty.

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[laughter] She's right. She's right. I'm guilty. I'm guilty. [laughter]

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She's right. I'm guilty. You have got to realize that if that man is going to live, he's going to have to leave off his family's pay. And it's just the fools that fry chicken. Now I know there was a time when pigs couldn't pay their father's future.

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And so he got his money by going to dinner. because we had many chickens and a lot of cream and salt. They put down the cream and salt and you ate it. And that was your thing.

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But that day is over. And the other day we ate, the next we must eat. And our whole, eat our whole way of eating has changed. Now, you, you've become too much tempted

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to eat all of this green food. (audience murmurs) You need to exercise, and you need to change your way of eating.

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Now you will do it if she will do it. If she will do it, you will do it. Every morning, you are gonna get up about six o'clock, put on some sneakers,

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and walk. (audience laughs) You would be amazed at his energy. Am I right, sir?

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You're right. You would be amazed at his energy. See, he can even work on a terrific amount of tricks. Everybody follows those tricks.

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And he's not like the singers. He'd be yours by Sunday noon. I'm not going to speak about this. I'm going to wait a moment. I'm going to tell you a good story. I was in one of the most recurring waves of life on God's earth because we were chosen by God's men to scare their lives.

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Just hang in there. [LAUGHTER] You can break it, or you can break the 8th of August. You can be a pleasant student, or a blight on the family.

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It's all up to you. All right? Now I have another page. I've been in the greatest habit of all days.

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I have known this young man for about 45 years. I've been married to him for 39. We met at Bishop College. He was a fool for a lobby.

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He was once for a child. (audience laughing) (audience laughing) (audience laughing)

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He served the teachers. They're table enemies. And the teachers always ate a trick or meat from the children, or the students.

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He and they would have pie, but we had bread cookies. They would have some kind of cake, but we had cereal.

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And of course, because he wasn't serving the teacher's table, he got the chance to eat what they had. And at that time, I could eat like a horse. And he would come by and he would set his pie down beside my plate and I would pass some. And there were eight of us at a table and the others would say,

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"Oh, you ought to send yourself to that poor man, that poor boy, who says he needs a good new year." And I said, "Now, if he won't give it to me, I am going to give it to him." And I did.

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But from one day to another, I finally discovered that he was the only man for me. [Applause] [BLANK_AUDIO]